MontrealStandard,

14 October 1905, page 4

 

Etiquette

 

Dilly—1.  A young girl may invite young men whom she meets at the house of friends, or who are introduced to her in any other orthodox way, to call at her home.  It goes without saying that she would extend such an invitation only to those who seem to take pleasure in her society, or who have paid her some graceful attention.  She would not do so or say anything that might be construed as ‘making advances.’  It is not always easy for a young girl to discern in the beginnings of acquaintanceship whether an agreeable talker or good dancer is, in other respects, a desirable friend: therefore, it is well to make inquiries about the ‘new man’ before offering him any hospitality.

  1. In placing dinner-knives n the table, the edge of the knife should be turned away from the plate. 
  2. A male guest would not allow himself to be served before the ladies of the family present.  This does not apply when a dish is handed by a servant, or from one guest to another, that each may help himself.  It would be confusing to ‘skip’ the men, therefore one should help oneself to anything offered in that way, the moment the dish is presented.

 

A Serious one—There is a slight difference between a business letter and a letter on a matter of business.  The fist is a strictly formal communication, destined very probably to be typed, or copied into a book for future reference by any one interested.  Though addressed to a firm or one of its members, it most likely will be read by one of them, but handed by a secretary or stenographer to the person in charge of the department concerned.  It may be produced as evidence in a law suit, or otherwise become public property.  For these and other reasons there is a very strict etiquette about business correspondence, certain forms and terms being rigourously observerd by all up to date and well established houses or firms.  If a lady wishes to transact some important business by correspondence, it is her duty to ascertain the proper forms and terms, etc.  One of her men friends might draw up a suitable document for her, or, failing other sources of information, the matter of real importance, the services of a notary should be sought.

The Editor of this department would be pleased to supply a few forms if the nature of the proposition or contract in question is mentioned.

2.  An informal note on a matter of business may be addressed to anyone with whom one is on friendly terms.  On general principles, however, it is much safer to exclude all other topics from a communication which is quite liable to be laid on a busy man’s des, and thence to pass into the hands of his secretary or typist, to say nothing of the office boy or the furnace man.

The note will not seem curt to a man of affairs.  He receives dozens of similar ones every day, and is grateful for their brevity and precision.

 

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