30 September 1905

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Beatrice B—To register your name at a hotel, write: Miss Beatrice Blank Longueil, Quebec.  The prefix is, of course, never used  when the name is written as a signature to a letter or other document, though it is right to place it before the name—in paranthesis—when writing for the first time to a stranger.


Young Matron—The two forms, “The Rev J and Mrs Jones,” and “The Rev John and Mrs Jones,” are equally correct on a card of invitation.


New Resident—1.  The custom of calling on new arrivals in the neighbourhood does not prevail in the larger cities.  A circle of friends can be made only through introductions, and even then the process is apt to be slow in the case of married people, unless they are fond of gaiety and quick to take advantage of opportunities to extend their acquaintance.  2.  It is a little unusual for a man to ask his associates in business if their wives will call on his wife, unless the men are already very intimate friends.  3.  As absolute strangers, the best way to seek introductions would be through the clergyman whose church you propose to attend.  Explain your position to him, and no doubt he and his wife will ask some members of the congregation to call.  Joining a club or class of some sort, or a philanthropic society sometimes brings pleasant association with other members.  It goes without saying that bright, interesting people are usually “taken up” with avidity, while more quiet and unresponsive persons are apt to be overlooked.


Letty R—Among intimate friends, or even acquaintances of long standing, belonging to the same set, the practice of exchanging formal calls is gradually being dropped.  Many ladies prominent in society are also giving up their “at home” days.  One large reception or several small teas serve to bring together at least once in a season all the friends to whom it is desired to extend some courtesy.  The telephone, affording such easy communication, with friends, is no doubt partly responsible for the passing of the afternoon call, as well as the ever-recurring ‘tea’ at which friends of the same set may meet almost every day, if they are so minded.  Of course, formal calls are still made on strangers, brides, elderly ladies or semi-invalids, and on old-fashioned friends who cling inveterately to ancient customs.  There are also the special occasions when a call is ‘de rigueur’ for purposes of sympathy, congratulations, kind inquirites or thanks for a favor received.