Montreal Daily Star, 18 August 1894, page 2

Etiquette Department

Would you please tell me whether it is proper for the “bride’s carriage” to go first to the Church at a Catholic wedding?

Ans- We have never been present at a Catholic wedding so cannot give direct information in this matter.  Our own impression is that no difference would be made with regard to what is done at a Protestant wedding, where precedence to the bride is the order of the day.

1.  A gentleman friend recently married has sent me their wedding cake.  Would it not be proper to call upon them seeing I am not acquainted with the bride?  2.  A lady accompanies a gentleman to the Academy the usher points to the seats they are to occupy, should the lady precede the gentleman on going to it?

Ans-  1.  Yes, quite correct for you to do so.  The fact of cake being sent to you is intimation that your gentleman friend wishes to retain you in the number of his married friends, and to become acquainted with his wife.  2.  The gentleman should precede the lady into the hall or place of public entertainment, but when taking their seats she precedes him, he taking the outer seat.

VG- Would you tell me what would be the most suitable gift for a birthday present for a young lady intimate friend?

Ans- In the present day there is among almost all young ladies a “perfect craze” for ornamenting their toilette tables with articles of silver such as silver topped scent bottles, silver handled brushes large or small, silver bonbonieres, silver mounted fans, “souvenir spoons” are also much in favour.  Any of those would be a suitable birthday gift.  A silver handled paper knife is a handsome and useful addition to a young lady’s writing table.  If she is of a literary turn of mind, a small edition of well chosen poems would be equally acceptable.

Nellie- 1.  At what age is a lady fit to get married?  2.  What is the best way to answer a gentleman when he asks you to dance?  Please give the affirmative and negative way.

Ans.- Any age is considered suitable after a young lady has finished her education and been introduced into society, which, generally is the case when she is eighteen or nineteen years old.  But our own experience and observation lead to the conclusion that the happiest and most sensible marriages are those which are made when the lady has passed out of her “teens” and has been five or six years in her “twenties.”  2.  In the affirmative, as  follows: “I shall be happy to give you this dance,” or “I shall have pleasure in doing so”; in the negative as follows: “I am sorry I cannot give you this dance,” or “I am sorry I am engaged for this dance.”