Montreal Daily Star, 21 November 1891, page 2


1. I am invited to a party next week.  Do you think it would be proper for me to take a young lady friend of mine without being asked or without asking permission of the host?  What do you think of my writing?  Leander

Ans. 1. No, you cannot do this without first obtaining permission.  The correct course is to ask for an invitation from the lady of the house.  2.  We think it is good and has the great recommendation of being very legible.

Will you kindly inform me through your valuable paper if it is proper for a newly married lady, on making an afternoon call, to leave her card and also that of her husband, or is her own all that is required.  By answering this you will oblige.

A Constant reader.

Ans.—She should leave her husband’s card as well as her own, and for a first call it is correct to leave two of his, one for the gentleman, the other for the lady of the house.

1. Will you please tell me in the next issue of the Star, if it is proper to cut the bread at the table with a knife or break it with the hands?  2.  what is your opinion of my writing?  GEH

Ans—Bread should always be broken when at the table.  A knife is never used except when cutting slices at breakfast or lunch.  The small square pieces for the dinner table are cut before hand, before placing them in the table-napkin.  2.  Though clear, the letters are rather straggling (especially the capitals).  A more connected and uniform style would be advisable.

Will you inform me through the column of your widely read paper whether it is polite for a young gentleman to tell a young lady that she has decidedly disimproved since he first knew her?  Should you consider it necessary to cut his acquaintance in consequence?

Anxious Enquirer.

Ans—It is considered extremely bad form to make personal observations.  They are only allowable between old and intimate friends and members of the family, and where they are of a complimentary nature.  For an ordinary acquaintance to make one of a contrary kind was extremely discourteous.  We think the young lady to whom it was addressed would be quite justified in discontinuing further acquaintance with a gentleman who showed himself so wanting in the ordinary rules of politeness.